Unrealistic expectations. I think that's what I would say about this chapter. Jen says,
"Listen to me" No one can pull this off. No one is pulling this off. The women who seem to ride this unicorn only display the best parts of their stories. Trust me. No one can fragment ther time and attention into this many segments. The trouble is, we have up-close access to women who excel in each individual sphere. With social media and its carefully selected messaging, we see career women killing it, craft moms slaying it, chef moms nailing it, Christian leaders working it. We register their beautiful yards, homemade green chile enchiladas, themed birthday parties, eight-week Bible study series, chore charts, ab routines, "10 Tips for a Happy Marriage, " career best practices, volunteer work, and Family Fun Night ideas. We make note of their achievements, cataloging their successes and observing their talents. Then we combine the best of everything we see, every woman we admire in every genre, and conclude: I should be all of that!"
Oh man. I don't think we/I do it on purpose but every time I hear something positive that could help me or my family, I subconsciously add it to the list. And yes. It makes me the crazy mom. Which in turn makes everyone around me crazy trying to make sure mom stays happy. And then, no ones happy so I try to do things to make everyone happy. Um. Yes. I do go to counseling. lol. I'm working on it. :) I told you this would be a journey and invited you on my crazy train ride!
Here's the best part. Jen says,
"We need to quit trying to be awesome and instead be wise. Decide which parts are draining you dry. What do you dread? What are you including for all the wrong reasons? Which parts are for approval?"
What? Freedom from having to do it all? What a great filter to run things thru! And how to put that filter to use? What does this season require of me? Ask God. He's got this. God wants us to have freedom. Especially freedom from guilt. By us putting our expectations in His hands, and letting Him guide us, we can really be free. And enjoy our kids.
I'm working on this. It's true grace.
What unrealistic expectations are you putting on yourself? On your families? Can you imagine God holding His hand out and you putting it in His hand. And if you are like me, it will be several times a day. :) After all...we are a work in process.
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